Like other relationships, dom-sub relationships come in many configurations. These relationships can be long-term, exclusive, and romantic; long term but poly or kinky friends-with-benefits-style; or one-time things.
Doms are often referred to as tops, while subs are referred to as bottoms. However, it's a common myth that people are all either tops/doms or bottoms/subs; many people like to play both roles, and those people may be called switches.
: Here are a few ways people may engage in dom-sub relationships
#D/s lovers
There are no whips and chains in their toy box, but there might be lots of vibrators. These people have sex the way most people do, but one partner "runs the f--k," as the charming saying goes. The sub in this scenario finds it exciting to be told to perform sexually and gets off on sexually servicing their dom
#Master and servant
This pairing doesn't just focus on sexual service many other types of service might be points of focus. Think of the **** classic the sub caring for the dom's boots and leathers. But in a different context, this could look like laying out someone's evening clothes and helping them get ready to go out.
#Bondage, D/s style
It's not unusual to see D/s partners who specialize in creating beautiful bondage harnesses or amazing suspension bondage scenarios together
"This kind of play could be done with a stranger but since a substantial amount of trust needs to be involved, not to mention skill, it can be wise and pleasurable to establish a regular partner for this kind of play."
#Training relationships
In these, the dom treats the sub as a kind of private student or even as a role-play animal. Puppies and ponies, where the dom sets the training regimen and the sub learns sexual skills,"
#Keyholders
This is a term associated with chastity play where the key in question is a key to a cock cage or chastity belt. This kind of D/s play involves a sub allowing their dom to tell them when they can touch themselves, have an orgasm, etc.
#Caregiver/little
In these relationships, the dom acts in an older caregiver role, such as mother, father, aunt/uncle, or nanny type over a sub who plays a younger role,
"Age play for the submissive may begin as a baby in diapers with a pacifier, a young child or adolescent. Activities can range from nurturing (bath time, hair brushing) to spanking and punishment. Submissives express an appreciation for being able to get out of their heads and relaxing into somebody else taking care of them.
24/7#
Some people engage in D/s play as a permanent (unless they renegotiate) part of their relationship. Unlike most of the rest of the styles above, in these relationships the roles are generally fixed and don't involve switching, as the above styles might.
#Female-led relationships
The term female-led relationship or FLR traditionally describes an ongoing **** relationship between a dominant woman and a submissive man. "FLR can be any relationship that is not 'male-led,'" she explains. "In its more extreme and perhaps traditional [form], FLR is a relationship where the female, or femme, is the decision-maker for the other partner. This could be anything from their finances to their attire to more menial tasks like chores."
Doms are often referred to as tops, while subs are referred to as bottoms. However, it's a common myth that people are all either tops/doms or bottoms/subs; many people like to play both roles, and those people may be called switches.
: Here are a few ways people may engage in dom-sub relationships
#D/s lovers
There are no whips and chains in their toy box, but there might be lots of vibrators. These people have sex the way most people do, but one partner "runs the f--k," as the charming saying goes. The sub in this scenario finds it exciting to be told to perform sexually and gets off on sexually servicing their dom
#Master and servant
This pairing doesn't just focus on sexual service many other types of service might be points of focus. Think of the **** classic the sub caring for the dom's boots and leathers. But in a different context, this could look like laying out someone's evening clothes and helping them get ready to go out.
#Bondage, D/s style
It's not unusual to see D/s partners who specialize in creating beautiful bondage harnesses or amazing suspension bondage scenarios together
"This kind of play could be done with a stranger but since a substantial amount of trust needs to be involved, not to mention skill, it can be wise and pleasurable to establish a regular partner for this kind of play."
#Training relationships
In these, the dom treats the sub as a kind of private student or even as a role-play animal. Puppies and ponies, where the dom sets the training regimen and the sub learns sexual skills,"
#Keyholders
This is a term associated with chastity play where the key in question is a key to a cock cage or chastity belt. This kind of D/s play involves a sub allowing their dom to tell them when they can touch themselves, have an orgasm, etc.
#Caregiver/little
In these relationships, the dom acts in an older caregiver role, such as mother, father, aunt/uncle, or nanny type over a sub who plays a younger role,
"Age play for the submissive may begin as a baby in diapers with a pacifier, a young child or adolescent. Activities can range from nurturing (bath time, hair brushing) to spanking and punishment. Submissives express an appreciation for being able to get out of their heads and relaxing into somebody else taking care of them.
24/7#
Some people engage in D/s play as a permanent (unless they renegotiate) part of their relationship. Unlike most of the rest of the styles above, in these relationships the roles are generally fixed and don't involve switching, as the above styles might.
#Female-led relationships
The term female-led relationship or FLR traditionally describes an ongoing **** relationship between a dominant woman and a submissive man. "FLR can be any relationship that is not 'male-led,'" she explains. "In its more extreme and perhaps traditional [form], FLR is a relationship where the female, or femme, is the decision-maker for the other partner. This could be anything from their finances to their attire to more menial tasks like chores."
